Why Positive Psychology? Why a Meaningful Life? What is 'Note to SELF'?'

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Because we have limited time and unlimited experiences to have

Because at the end, we will be reduced to a small box of Calcium Phosphate. This consciousness of mortality is the very start of leading a meaningful life.

And a meaningful life is not necessarily a happy one(the way the world describes happiness). It's about being at peace with yourself, the choices you made in your life and respecting those choices and standing by them with your head held up high. We are regular people with regular thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes and dilemmas. Some of them are stereotypes in nature and some our own creation coming from our own sense of inadequacy.

We get carried away, land up making unfair comparisons and have a flawed world view. We forget that we are perfectly unique people, each with our own journey. It's only us who understand our journey and what goes in traversing it. We have forgotten to respect ourselves first before respecting anyone around. We have forgotten to live our life because we are so busy living the life of ‘others’. It is here that I want to INTERRUPT.

Because we were born with a SELF which came first...much before we encountered others. This 'Self' needs to be at peace. This 'note to self' will remind me and you of our regular everyday choices and how those choices affect our emotional well-being.

Drawing from my long-standing Psychology background, my own inclinations towards Positive Psychology and exploring 'a meaningful life' I stand here to help reduce the cognitive dissonance (the inconsistency in our attitudes and behaviors which creates an uncomfortable state of being) and advocate a life where we are at peace with our self.

 Positive Psychology has made a deep impact in the way I look at life. This field is about the scientific study of the strengths that enable individuals and communities to thrive. It is founded on the belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves, and to enhance their experiences of love, work, and play. I shall write along these lines...along the lines of positivity, strengths , meaning and  optimism.




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  1. sud12 October 2016 at 11:44

    I hope many teachers n parents read this blog... coz the comparison starts from the childhood.... most kids, when they grow up they forget how unique they r.coz they never knew it... as were never given a chance to be unique....

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